So you’re thinking about getting some satisfaction without getting into the complications of a serious relationship. Hey, we’re not judging! But as everything comes with a price, is being friends with benefits worth the risk?
You know him pretty well. He’s single, you’re single, you’re both constantly complaining about not being able to find the right partner in the neighborhood and most of all, you both have needs. A situation like this potentially leads to a no-strings attached relationship. But how do you navigate your way through this without getting hurt?
The Perfect Candidate
In movies, we how sex can ruin the friendship you have with someone. Well, if he’s someone you’ve known for a long time, and someone you’re really close to, it’s better to take the high road and go on a proper date as opposed to having weekly rendezvous’. Instead, look out for someone new, not someone who isn’t aware of your perfect kind of guy. Men aren’t the kind to beat around the bush, unlike us who seem to prefer hinting at things as opposed to saying it out. So, if you think this guy seem to fit the bill, tell him what you want in all honesty. It’ll save more time and complications the sooner you want something bluntly casual.
A no-strings attached relationship is almost like an affair. You’re too embarrassed to tell anyone other than your best friend (or diary) and you never know how long it’s going to last. But what happens after that first night of intimacy? Do you call and talk all night long? Do you stalk him on his Facebook page and see which girl he’s hanging out with? Remember that you’re just ‘friends’. Period. You’re just a girl, who is a girl and do a few naughty things with him. That’s it. You shouldn’t have to care about him calling you to just ‘talk’. He doesn’t have to meet any of your friends, or even mention you to his friends. The term is coined to mask ‘sex’ with the word ‘benefit’.
The “I’m falling for you” Phase
There’s no denying the fact that we do end up falling for someone, especially when sex is involved. Perhaps it’s his style of love-making or the way he makes you feel like the most important thing in the world when you are together. But again, you’re just friends. We hate to break it to you, but that’s just what he does – with you and every girl. So don’t mistake that touch on the cheek or the post-sex cuddle to be a sign that you’re meant to be together. Do not expect him to change the way he sees you or how he feels about you. If you want a proper companion, don’t create one but instead, go out there and find one.