Whether you like it or not, there’s a strong connection between the type of relationship you have with your partner and how it affects your mental health. Getting into a relationship nowadays ain’t easy – just when you thought you’d uncovered someone’s true personality, here comes an additional layer you need to peel. And as days go by, your anxiety starts to kick in, with questions like, ‘’Can I fully trust this person?’’, ‘’I don’t want to go through the same pain as before’’, ‘’Oh no, he reminds me a lot of my exes.’’ All of these can affect your mental and physical well being.
Here’s what I learned throughout my spiritual journey last year (and I’m still learning, so bear with me). I watched a video where a life coach explained, ‘’If you find yourself constantly anxious about your relationship, it’s likely that your body and mind are working overtime to get your attention. You’re being not-so-subtly nudged to examine the anxiety, seek to understand the root cause, and grow from there.’’ To make it more understandable, your conscious self is there to guide you, sending you signals and telling you that something is off. And that people or things aren’t exactly what they seem. So I’m going to tell you the same thing I’d tell my friends; Always trust your instincts.
Ignoring our anxiety might also lead us to ignore our emotional needs. During my past relationship, I knew something was off – I knew I needed more, and yet, I did my best to ignore the anxiety, because I was afraid of being alone. Knowing what I know now, I wish I could go back and tell my former self to start paying attention to my relationship anxiety sooner – because the growth I experienced once I started exploring my thoughts was monumental.
Knowing what I know now, I wish I could go back and tell my former self to start paying attention to my relationship anxiety sooner
So ladies and gents, before you move to the next level in your relationship (I already had, at that point, which made it even harder), it is important to dive into your emotions and ask yourself, “Is this relationship healthy? Is my anxiety asking me to reevaluate my relationship? Most importantly, are my needs being met? Does my partner understand my needs but chooses not to attend to them?
If you still need further clarification, you can read: How To Know That Your Relationship Is No Longer Serving You