Although self-help books like, “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” are everywhere, the romantic chemistry between males and females will never ever be understood completely, no matter how many times you’ve read these books, or how many times you’ve attended crash courses on relationships. Even though it has constantly been a never-ending discussion, we believe that mankind are nowhere near a definite conclusion when it comes to resolving romantic issues.
We don’t know about you, but we admit that we, being the fairer sex, are sometimes too hot to handle. Don’t you wish to know what part of us the guys can never unravel and comprehend? To find out, we’ve gathered some of our male buddies and asked them the ultimate question: What don’t you understand about us females? Here’s what they had to say.
1. They don’t know what females want: Girls seem to be very vague when it comes to stating what they want from their significant others. If you’ve never mentioned your expectations before – maybe it’s time you start communicating with your guy.
“I never understand what they actually want. It drives me crazy.” – Sharvin, 22.
“I don’t understand what they actually want from us.” – Jo Wen, 23.
2. They don’t get why we complain so much: So a lot of guys think that girls complain too much. However, they don’t specify what complaints that they most often hear from us.
“Why are they always, always, complaining?” – Aizat, 23.
3. They don’t know why we find the need to cling onto them constantly: We guess some guys just don’t like PDAs – in public and in private.
“I don’t get why girls feel the need to constantly stick to their boyfriend, especially when at home. Sometimes, FIFA is better than cuddling.” – Christopher, 26.
4. They don’t get why we’re unhappy when they hang with the boys: While we’re cool with our boyfriends hanging out with their bros, it’s about how much time you spend with them vs. with us, and what you’re up to when you’re with them. But generally, girls, give your man some space – letting him spend time with his friend will make him miss you more when you’re absent.
“I don’t get why girls get angry when their boyfriends go out to hang out with the guys. And if you’re angry, why won’t you tell us why you’re angry?” – Lyon, 22.
5. They don’t get why some girls refuse to make the first move: Well, girls, the time of acting shy has passed. Guys actually like it when you ask for his number first!
“Why can’t girls be more aggressive when it comes to making the first move in relationships?” – Ian, 22.
6. They don’t know why we give them such vague signals: It’s like that Katy Perry song, Hot N Cold. Do you want him or do you not? If you’re not sure yourself, might as well be honest and let him know that you need more time to decide.
“I don’t get why they can’t give us clearer signals. Sometimes it’s this, sometimes it’s that. It’s really confusing.” – Kent, 22.
“I don’t get what they are thinking of most of the time because they are always giving me mixed signals.” – Wilfred, 22.
“Why do girls want to play hard to get and give out such vague signals? We really wouldn’t know what to do.” – Kenneth, 20.
7. They don’t get why ‘virginity’ s a hot topic: Some girls worry about what guys think when it comes to them being a virgin or not. Truth is: they don’t care!
“I don’t get why the issue of their virginity matters so much to them. We don’t really care, as long as they have a likeable personality.” – Aaron, 22.
8. Even when we’re communicating, we don’t mean what we say: Girls, if you don’t directly say what’s on your mind, he won’t know. Imagine how confusing it is when you say ‘yes’ but mean ‘no’ all the time!
“Why do they say something but mean something totally different?” – Johan, 24.
After reading what these guys had to say, it pretty much seems like most guys are really wishing that we’d be a 100 percent unambiguous when it comes to giving them signals and letting them know what we really want and expect from them. To that we say, let’s try to make their lives a little easier, shall we, ladies?
[Written by Elfie Jane & Carmen Chong]
