Congratulations on successfully organizing your first date. Much like a job interview, you may feel overwhelmed as you’re flooded with joy, hope, expectations, and not forgetting the most important question of all – “What do I wear”?
But in the middle of this excitement, you may start to fear that there’s a chance it might not go as well as you want it to. So here’s a few things you should keep in mind so you can start scheduling that second date!
Drop all expectations
If you’re one to start fantasizing if this man could be ‘The One’ or whether he has the qualities to be the perfect husband, it’s better that you keep calm and focus on getting to know each other first. The first thing you want to do is know if you both have chemistry on the first date, not start fantasizing how you’ll have gorgeous babies together! Leaving-off any expectations will also keep you from getting hurt as you’ll learn not to think of too many things which may not happen.
Pick the right setting
The first date doesn’t always have to be a traditional dinner at an elegant restaurant. Unconventional date ideas have the benefit of letting him see the person you are. Going to a video game arcade on your first date can show you whether you both work well as a team while having a lot of fun. Just remember to make pick a setting that allows you to conversate. While going to the movies can be romantic, you’re bound to feel a little awkward as you don’t know much about each other, so save a night in the movies for the third date!
While being a little shy might attract a guy, too much can be a turn-off and can leave both parties disappointed. So, if you’re a little dorky or have the potential to goof-off, shrug it off with a little laugh, and that may just be one of the things that attracts him to you. Leave all seriousness aside and be yourself. Also avoid whining about work or your overprotective mother. Focus on being optimistic as that is generally something attractive in someone.
Don’t mention your ex
Although some guys don’t have a problem hearing about your past relationships, many find it to be a turn-off as it gives off the notion that you’re still hung-up over the last guy, and out on a date to get over your ex! Keep your past relationship stories to yourself, and in the event that your date asks you about it, politely say that it’s something personal and you’d like to keep it in the past.
Find a common ground
If there’s something you both agree on, focus on that topic, and if there’s something you disagree about, disagree politely and don’t sound like a 5-year old about it. Express them respectfully. It can go both ways where he begins to see you as someone articulate, but if you sense a discomfort in the topic, simply move on to another topic to discuss.
Don’t get too personal
Asking personal questions like how many girls he’s been with or how much he earns is no way to start a first date. Do not reveal too much of yourself. The goal of a first date to learn a few things about each other before you decide if there might be a connection, so it’s okay to leave a little mystery! This also applies to wearing a top that too much exposure of your cleavage.
With all these guidelines for a first date, we don’t really want it to be a serious ordeal where you can’t have any fun at all! Flirting is definitely a go for your first date, but don’t over-do it. Remember to engage with your eyes and smile. If you think it might be going well, you can place your hand over the table to see if he’ll touch yours. If you’re going to kiss, leave him with a kiss on the cheek, a hug and nothing more.
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