If you type in the words, why followed by men on Google, the top three searches that come up are:
Why men cheat
Why men lie
Why men cheat on their wives
Followed by why men have nipples and why they hate going to church but that’s a story for another day. Now to say that all men are cheat on their other halves is as true as saying that all women are gold diggers. There are two types of cheating emotional cheating and physical cheating. Emotional cheating is very gray area. While there may not be any sex involved, your partner may be spending more time having conversations or innocent activities with someone who they insist is “just a friend”, things that should be done with you. They say that while women need a reason to cheat, men just need a place.
It’s difficult for anyone to find out that they’ve been two timed and for most people, they cannot understand why it happened to them. There is an urban myth that all men will cheat if given the green light to do so. When a man cheats, the spouse or girlfriend often blame themselves. They blame themselves for neglecting to maintain their appearances, for nagging a bit too frequent, for not letting him spend more time on the XBox.
There are men who are in long term relationships but feels that he’s too young to settle down and wonder what its like to be with someone else. So they come to two options: break up with their current girlfriends for freedom and risk losing them forever, or fool around behind her back until they get everything out of the system so to say.
Cheating does not only apply to men alone these days, it happens just as frequent as women especially with the Internet where seemingly harmless e-relationships begin. After the one year honeymoon period, relationships can get a bit stale.
The sex starts to get infrequent, you each expect the other to understand your stress at work, the conversations start to get mundane and dates boil down to dinners and movies where you don’t talk much. Somebody in the relationship is bound to feel lonely. Cheating is not all about looks. Hugh Grant cheated on Elizabeth Hurley with a tranvestite prostitute. Maria hired an unattractive house maid, Mildred Baena and yet her husband Arnold Schwarzenegger still slept with the latter and what’s worse fathered a child with both women at the around the same time.
It’s always easier to cheat with someone else at work than to admit there’s something wrong with your relationship and to work on it.
Most of the time people don’t realize there’s a problem until its too late. An old aunt once said to me in a hush voice, the secret to a long and happy marriage is trust. If people took half the time and effort they put into sneaking around and channelled that energy into making a great marriage or relationship, they would realize that what they are looking for has always been with them. If the relationship was not built on friendship, chances are that it won’t stand trials or tribulations.