Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love and while there are institutions that strongly suggest that the celebration be banned because it promotes “immoral activity” and has even gone as far as to urge the government to air anti-Valentine Day’s advertisements on television to discourage Muslims from celebrating the event.
We at Lipstiq think that educating our young ones about the birds and the bees are a far more important than letting them get their first whiff of the unknown through other less reliable resources such as, well, porn. First impressions last and they set the precedence for how we view certain issues
Sex will take place Valentine’s Day or not and it’s not just another physical activity as some may attest to. Sex has emotional and physical consequences that can be damaging to certain individuals and not forgetting unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.
There is no doubt that sex education is important but most parents tend to gloss it over and ignore it or try to postpone the truth as long as they can. How many of you were told that going out with boys or holding hands will make you pregnant?
Children start to get curious and ask questions as early as 3 years of age and you know how you should answer them?
As honestly as you can that’s what. Give them the facts as plainly and simply as possible so that they will understand. Tell them that babies are made with the male depositing his sperm into the female vagina through his penis. There is no need to explain the exact details of lovemaking because it’s not something very young children will comprehend. Sex shouldn’t just be a one time only discussion but should be brought up during everyday opportunities such as a pregnancy in the family.
Among the questions they may ask include:
1. How do babies get inside a mommy’s tummy?
2. How are babies born?
3. Why doesn’t everyone have a penis?
4. Why do you have hair down there?
Yes your child may be shocked and disgusted, plus he may never look at the both of you the same way again but the earlier you discuss sex with your children, the less embarassing it will be as they grow up and they may even look to you for advice at a later stage in life. You can provide more detailed questions as your child matures.
Sex education also will teach your child to protect him or herself from sexual abuse Teach your child that no one is allowed to touch the private parts of his or her body without permission and neither should they do it to someone else. Encourage them to ask as many questions as they like.
So really, banning Valentine’s Day is not the solution to premarital sex, education is, because the more you tell people not to do something, the more they’ll want to do it out of rebellion.