Wondering if what’s happening in your relationship is right or not? Are you drowning in a pool of unhappiness all because of your relationship? You could be going through a pretty unhealthy time. Here are a few pointers that will help you determine if you’re in an unhealthy relationship – and if you are, then it may be time to find your way out.
1. There is a wedge between you and your family and friends
When you first start out in a relationship, you can easily get lost in this ‘love bubble’ and you only come out for food and water. When you’re in this bubble, you tend to block out your friends and family, and be with your guy 24/7 but that really isn’t the healthy way to go. What’s even worse is if he asked you to pull out from plans with family or friends to spend time with him. Be sure to spend the time you need with them and never agree to ditch them, even if he says so.
2. You’re worried he’ll harm himself if you break up with him
If a guy threatens to hurt him or you while you’re in the process of a fight or breakup, then that is a clear sign that you’re relationship is not healthy at all. As upsetting as break ups can be, him telling you he’ll hurt himself or trying to control you and stop you from breaking-up… it’s not the way to go. If this does happen, do tell a trusted adult or friend about the situation – and even make an appointment with a professional counsellor to advice you how to handle the situation.
3. You don’t trust him
Trust is key and that is a known fact. If you can’t trust you’re man with just going out with friends – you’re going to have to ask yourself why? What is so wrong? The lack of trust will damage your relationship as the time passes. It’s not healthy to always be wondering about your man in the wrong light because of the lack of trust.
4. You fear him and his temper
Are you afraid of him? If your answer is yes, then you have a big problem. If your man is the type of person who will suddenly burst out in rage, then you may have to find a way to handle this professionally. When it comes to temper, you can never be too careful. You can always sit around wondering in fear when then next outburst will be. It’s not healthy for your relationship nor is it healthy for you.
5. You feel pressured to do things you don’t want to do
Are you feeling pressured when you are with your man? Are you doing things you don’t want to do? If you are, then you know there is a problem. When you’re in a relationship, the requests and understanding should go both ways. When you can’t state that you don’t want to do something, then that is really unhealthy. If you can’t communicate with each other, there are bound to be more problems too follow.
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