Are you in love with the guy? Do you think he is marriage material? Did you even say yes when he proposed?
He may say all the right things but as time goes by you start to notice that his actions may not exactly match his words. He assures you that he respects you but does not take your opinions into consideration. He voices out that you both have a say in the relationship but it seems like he is actually the one making all the decisions. He says he loves you for who you are but makes it a big deal to do something that you enjoy.
If you think those are the qualities of a man that you should marry, then you are sorely wrong, ladies. These are in fact behaviours of someone that you most definitely do not want to spend the rest of your life with.
So, before you say “I do” you might want to take note of the signs that screams you should not marry him:
He is condescending – Your man is not your master and you’re certainly not his slave. You guys are two people in relationship that make decisions together. So, if he always has to have the last word, you might want to rethink the entire relationship because if that is the case, there might be some sort of hierarchy thing going on. He is no more important than you are. Remember that!
He is manipulative – Do you feel like you should be mad at something he has done wrong by you, but somehow he manages to twist things around and leave you feeling guilty instead for being mad? Manipulation is another form of control and one you shouldn’t have to put up with.
He breaks promises – We don’t mean promises like, he promised to buy you a fancy bag and ended up not doing so. If he promises to be at a family event and then flakes out last minute, then get rid of him because clearly he has no consideration whatsoever. He also doesn’t seem to care that he gave you his word that he would be there. You want the person you’re marrying to be able to deliver what they have promised.
He cares for number 1 – Do you feel that a lot of his sentences consist of “I” instead of “us”, because if you do, then it’s a sure sign that your man cares only for himself. You want someone that you’re marrying to include you in the picture and make sure that the two of you are part of his bigger plan. Not just his selfish self.
He doesn’t try – Has there been times when you feel like you two are complete opposites and while you may have tried the things he enjoys doing, he refuses to do what you would like to? Compromise is a must in any relationships. Two people must make certain changes to help them flourish as a couple. It has to go both ways.