Have you ever read one of those racy sex romance novels and thought that perhaps it would be fun to do something similar? According to a research done by The Fussy Librarian, most erotic novels and all the steamy sex scenes are based on the author’s personal experience.
The website that recommends e-books to its readers polled 103 writers about their sexual escapades, and what came out of the poll was pretty juicy. 46 percent of the authors confessed to trying out sex for research purposes. Some 41 percent of these writers have even dipped their feet in BDSM! Clearly, they don’t simply write about these steamy sex encounters but tries them all out for themselves too. So, for something a little different in the bedroom, we’ve compiled some of the best tips given by erotic novelists:
Do With What You’ve Got!
If you were into what you read in 50 Shades of Grey, please do not hesitate to pick up whatever that is sanitary and use it as a toy. “If you don’t want to go out and buy that kind of stuff, there are a lot of things around the house that will work, too,” says Kim Carmichael, author of Trifecta and Permanent. If you have any costumes lying around, then use that too because they make the perfect toys to spice things up.
Try Something That Is Unthinkable
Sabrina Lacey, author of Heart Series has one major tip: “If you think, ‘I really want to, but I shouldn’t,’ then you should. Stop thinking, and just go.” Take your heroine in an erotic novel, she always ends up giving in to her in desires that always ends up being sexy. The more ludicrous it sounds in your head, the better it will be (as long as it’s safe!).
Be Open
In a lot of erotic novels, some of the scenes usually happens in a public-like place, one where you could get caught and be seen. Why is this so? Because it’s hot! Take a nice drive and pull over where it’s slightly deserted, turn on the radio and enjoy each other in a steamy sexcapade! Changing rooms are also exciting but slightly risky.
Get Inspiration From The Movies
Movies have a way of portraying scenarios in a scale that’s thousands of times better than reality, but who’s to say that you can’t take cue from the movies and create a scene of your own. If what you’re seeking are new bedroom ideas then give 9 1/2 Weeks a try. Mickey Rourke and Kim Basinger will change the way you will look at an ice cube forever. But any movies with hot sex scenes can inspire you to try out a few new moves.
Switch Roles
If he is always the dominant one then switch it up. The next time things get steamy in the bedroom between you and your partner, don’t be afraid to hold the reins. It turns your partner who’s always a dominant into a submissive, and the sudden change in power might be a massive turn-on.
Talk Dirty
Porn has got nothing on erotic novels when it comes to talking dirty. They really know how to make everything sound sexy and inviting. So, why not flip a few pages and read to get inspiration on what you should be murmuring into his ear. It’s safe to say that most guys will enjoy the sensual wordplay, just don’t overdo it!
