Whether or not you’re experienced in this topic, you may have had doubts at some point, if all that people say about sex is true. Well, not everything. Some of what you may have heard are major myths that need to stop spreading. So, if you’ve never had sex and someone tells you any one of these lies, you’d know best than to believe that piece of sh*t.
Sex is the highest level of intimacy a couple can achieve in their relationship, as you should already know. Sex isn’t just like – I open the door for you, you f*ck the sh*t outta me and you get out. I mean, if you do this, then hello, sex captain! But in all honesty, it does not work like that. So, if you have doubts as you are about to embark on your sexual journey with your significant other, here are some sex myths that are just plain lies, that you shouldn’t even be thinking about:
1. ‘Pulling Out’ Avoids Pregnancy
Listen here ladies, this is by far the biggest myth. Just cause your man pulls out, it does not necessarily mean you are safe. There may be a slight chance of you getting pregnant. So, just to be safe here, never be too sure if he says “I pulled out”. A healthy fertile male human is able to ejaculate between 2 and 5 millilitres of semen, which is about 100 million sperm in each ml. I repeat, A 100 MILLION SPERM! Even if you can’t do math, you’d know the pull out method is not failproof at preventing pregnancy. Let’s be honest here, some of us are just the accidental outcome of ‘I thought I pulled out’! Just kidding, you’re meant to be, love!
2. Everyone Is Doing It, So Should I
This isn’t the era where lovers meet, get engaged and then get married so they can think about their sex lives and family planning. Sex has become somewhat easy, I’d say. Regardless of however the world may be around you, and even if you are in a happy relationship with someone, sex is a personal choice.
If some Karen walks up to you and says, “Can’t believe you haven’t had sex yet,” pay no heed to such worthless remarks. Nobody should force you and most importantly, there is no pressure here. If you want it, do it and if you don’t, whatever. This is not a Bachelor’s of Degree that you have to get a cert for, so relax.
3. Real Life Sex Is Just Like Pornography
What you see in the movies and pornography are scripted. It is not natural or anything like in the moment. So, please do not plant it in your mind that sex is, and should be, like what you see on porn, cause it really ain’t. One thing everyone should understand is that the people you watch in porn are paid actors that have a mission to entertain their audience. The actions that take place in porn aren’t really a common thing in everyday sex, and if you watch a whole lot of it, you’re most probably drawn to believing that sex in reality is just like pornography. Trust me, it isn’t even close to anything you watch on the screen.
4. Her Pussy Equals Her Virginity
Where do I even start on this! And to think that some men are still putting their faith in this sh*t. This is the age-old belief that a woman’s hymen is the determining factor of whether or not she is a virgin. It is true that when a woman first has vaginal intercourse, a tear in the hymen occurs causing her to bleed. The hymen is a membrane that lines the opening of the vagina but not fully covering the opening. So, for SOME women, during her first intercourse, a light tearing of the hymen can take place.
Here’s the fun fact: some women aren’t even born with a hymen. Yup, some vaginas just don’t have it and in other vajayjay’s, tearing doesn’t even take place. This is because the hymen can stretch out to the length of the penis. So, if you hear “women who don’t bleed during their first intercourse aren’t virgins” – this is a complete myth.
5. Masturbation Is Dangerous
There are tonnes of myths around this one. That masturbating can cause erectile dysfunction and cause sexual dysfunction in women. None of this is true. Masturbation isn’t harmful in any way, and that is a guarantee, unless you’re masturbating with a broom stick up your vagina – then you may face some serious injuries.
Specialists have even argued that there is no such thing as masturbating too often, because in reality, it brings a plethora of health benefits, like releasing tension and easing menstrual cramps. And for women, masturbating actually helps you achieve orgasm faster than having your man up in there.
6. Sex Affects Athleticism
When, where and who told you this, mate? How many athletes are reading this right now and can actually relate to this? Before your big marathon, your coach would probably advise you to abstain from sexual activities or any steamy action, for fear that it may decrease your stamina. This is a complete myth. Recent studies have proven that having sex a day before participating in any sports event will not affect your performance in any way whatsoever. Relieved now? You can still bang the night before, and run your marathon in the morning.
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