In the game of friendships and relationships, we often forget to draw boundaries. For most of us, being social creatures and interacting with other people, and sharing our life stories is second nature. However, we frequently overlook what we should never share. Some things are better kept to ourselves rather than being shared with others.
Not sharing personal information may appear to be selfish, but it is not. There’s a chance they’ll use your secrets against you, which could lead to unfavourable outcomes. With that said, here’s a list of stuff you should always refrain from sharing – and it’s not about trust.
1. Your relationship
Being in a relationship for years, I’ve learned one important thing: NEVER SHARE ANYTHING ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP! There are a lot of things that happen between couples. You love a lot and you fight a lot too. There are always ups and downs, but that’s what you get for being in a relationship. Whatever happens between you and your partner, it’s up to the both of you to fix things, not bring in a third person. I mean, you can share bits about your relationship – like the recent date you guys went on or new achievements, to your close friends and family. But avoid sharing your relationship issues or exposing your partner’s flaws. I know it’s hard, but even if you’re super upset and angry, just don’t bother sharing it with others. From experience, sharing these crucial things with a third person will only make your relationship worse and it might result in an unnecessary break up.
2. Family drama
Have you ever ranted to your pals about your family’s problems? Were you able to address the problem or did you just make it worse? If you must know, the more you talk about them and open up about them, the more difficult it will be to solve them. This is a common blunder we make as individuals. Family problems are common and they’re designed to be repaired and solved inside the family circle and should not be shared with others. Everyone has different viewpoints, which will leave you perplexed in the end, and no one knows the true situation about your family troubles. Be sure of yourself, trust yourself, and have faith that everything will work out, since it is a part of life.
3. Menstrual details
Menstruation is a very personal matter that women like to discuss with their male or female friends. They do this either because they believe it is mature to discuss taboo topics openly, or because it increases intimacy and trust. However, these mature ladies frequently forget that not everyone else is as mature as they are to accept the message without distorting its substance. As much as possible, avoid discussing your menstrual or other body-related issues with others. Go ahead and do it if you’re confident there won’t be any awkwardness or misunderstandings on the receiving end.
4. Your sexual life
While it’s perfectly OK to confide in close friends if you have any doubts or concerns, the key is to strike a balance and avoid going into too much detail. Keep your private life private unless and until the conversation is specifically about sex lives and there is genuine concern, not blatant judgement. There’s no need to mention that your lover didn’t make you orgasm one time, or how many partners you made out with. After all, who cares about your sex life?
5. Deepest fear
Do you have a fear of something? Do you know what your biggest flaw is? We all have worries and shortcomings in life, but no matter how tiny or large they are, or whatever they are, we can deal with them. Sharing this information with others or requesting assistance from them, on the other hand, is not a good idea. To be honest, regardless of how close you are with them, this may be used against you, which is terrifying. Keep this to yourself; all you have to do now is confront it bravely. Even if you feel compelled to share, do so only with those you truly know and trust.
6. Finance
If nothing else, for your own safety, keep quiet about your financial situation. The quantity of money you earn on a monthly or annual basis is a very personal and crucial piece of information about you. If someone has access to this information, they can learn a lot about you and your family. When life takes a toll on one’s finances, money is a weapon that anyone in need would like to have. But why would you give them a chance to look at yours? Whatever the cause, it’s best not to mention how much land your forefathers gave you or how many salary raises you received.
7. Good deeds
When kindness is advertised, it loses its meaning. While performing modest acts of kindness, may not take much time, boasting about them all the time may portray you as a braggart. Instead of bragging about how nice you are or how helpful you are, let your actions speak for themselves.
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