Relationships are a big deal. Mostly because you’ve got to stay committed for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. Kudos to you guys who maintain that stuff. It ain’t easy to keep a relationship feisty and always feeling the tingles of first love. It takes effort – and when I say this, I mean from both sides.
A relationship takes two to work – it’s not a one-way street. And if you are in a one-way communication relationship – please leave!! You are not going to go through all that hassle for someone who doesn’t do the same for you.
Or, you could try and save your relationship.
These are some of the ways to rescue your dying relationship – coming from relationship experts themselves. And no, this is not your “go on a date night article”. If your ship is sinking, you need to take it beyond that.
Trying New Things In The Bedroom
You see, one of the few things that keep a couple intact is, indeed, activities in the bedroom. Undeniable! You can shout at each other the whole day and still end up a hot mess on the bed at the end of the night.
But what if you hadn’t done it in a while and you’re just not confident? It’s not because you’ve lost the spark… or maybe you have, but you just have to know how to revive it.
Setting up the mood, slow talking, subtle touching (that leads to major lip-locks of course), wearing the right lingerie… all these are little efforts you can make to bring back the fire in your relationship, or at least, in the bedroom.
Ever tried role playing? You’ll love it and your partner will love it too. Dr Juliana, a licensed Marital and Family Therapist, confirms that.
I know it sounds crazy and stuff, but confidence gets you a long way. Confidence is sexy. So wear your confidence, especially in the bedroom.
Working on Yourself
If you wonder why your partner doesn’t seem as interested in you as they first were, this may be the reason for it. When was the last time you had a self-grooming day?
If you want your partner to only look at you, then you’ve got to be an eye-treat. Sweet, sexy, hot – anything you want to be. I know self-grooming and pampering is for one’s own self-esteem and stuff, but what’s wrong in doing it for your partner every now and then?
If it keeps your relationship fun and wild, then go for it. Take care of your complexion, smell good always, wear your best outfits and you’ll notice your partner looking back at you like ‘Damn, what did I miss?’
Know Your Partner Like The Back Of Your Hand
In some cases, it’s not that your relationship is dying, it’s that you don’t understand what’s wrong. When things don’t go your way for you and your partner, try putting yourself in your partner’s shoes.
Whether you guys often have sex or not, it means a lot for your partner if you were there for them more often. Imagine yourself as your partner and understand what they might be thinking, how they are feeling and what they are going through.
Dr Juliana agrees and confirms to this. She says she often has to conduct role plays and script-reading for couples who can’t empathise with one another naturally.
If you’ve lost the connection you once had with your partner, you can always get it back on the basis of understanding each other. And once you’re re-connected, you’d be able to to save that relationship.
I cannot stress how important this is in every relationship. Never forget or avoid your partner’s love language. It’s what makes them feel loved. My love language for instance, is physical touch. I cannot go a minute without holding hands, hugging or being super close with my significant other.
What’s your love language – and most importantly, what’s your partner’s love language? Show your love language and let your boo show you theirs. Love language always brings the spark back in a relationship. It’s one thing that I strongly believe in and you should too.
In Gary Chapman’s Secret To Love That Lasts book, he wrote that “spicing up your relationship lies on meeting each other’s deep emotional need that makes them feel loved.”
If your partner is a cuddler and you’re not, come on – just give in once. At least for the sake of your relationship.
Always respect your significant other’s love language.
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