Be honest: Have you ever tried to win back an ex and failed miserably? Okay, I know you’re thinking about moving on but at the same time, you want your ex back. You’re aware that person has faults but your heart still tells you to go back, reminiscing about how good they are sometimes. You just want to be with that person again, for better or for worse.
Then you look at your phone every half an hour, check your messenger, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and heck… email inbox, to see if your ex would want to talk to you, all ready to get back together.
You’re aware that person has faults but your heart still tells you to go back, reminiscing about how good they are sometimes.
To help you get through this emotional roller coaster ride—here’s how you can get your ex back. Even though I wouldn’t recommend it.
1. Ask yourself the right questions: ‘’Is this necessary? What can and can’t be changed if we indeed get back together?’’
Try to figure out what you did wrong and prepare in the right way every step of the way; you will also need to get inside your ex’s head in order to figure out what they may be thinking at any given time.
This applies to your past relationship during arguments or conflicts that you may have gotten into, to the actual breakup, but also moving forward while trying to win back their heart. Consider the 360 degree approach. It will enable you to understand why both of you felt a certain way about specific issues that caused conflict in your relationship.
2. Be self-critical
Your ego takes a hit and you can make yourself feel worse before feeling better when engaging in such a process. But getting back with an ex will require you to put your pride aside and to figure out exactly where you went wrong and what pushed you to act a certain way.
What can be scary is realizing deeper issues that you have; one’s that go beyond your previous relationship. You must have the willpower to face your shortcomings and to engage in a process of change!
Break the silence when you feel more clarity about the relationship. Remember to only shoot a text when you’re certain that you miss your ex for the right reasons, rather than out of boredom or guilt
3. Give them proper space
If you can’t respect your ex-partner’s basic wishes of needing some space, you’re not off to a good start in making them want to date you again. Of course, if you’re trying to get back together, you eventually will want to reach out—but there’s no concrete set of time to wait.
A good rule of thumb: Break the silence when you feel more clarity about the relationship. Remember to only shoot a text when you’re certain that you miss your ex for the right reasons, rather than out of boredom or guilt.
4. Find potential solutions
Now that you have taken the time to understand your mistakes and where things went wrong; you will need to use your brainpower to come up with potential solutions in order to prove to your ex that you have evolved and to make sure that you don’t make the same mistakes over and over again.
