Have you ever been so in love that you feel threatened by every other living organism? It’s not your fault though — your past experiences from previous relationships most likely made you this way. Insecurity can be the dumbest thing sometimes. Every person in the world has something he or she is insecure about – even if only slightly. While a little insecurity is okay to deal with, a lot of it – and if not managed well – can destroy your relationship. Here’s how:
1. Trust issues
An insecure person will take anything as a reason to be mistrusting and constantly see problems where none exist. When you become anxious about the simplest things, you start looking for signs of things ‘going wrong’ and, of course, you usually find what you’re looking for, even if it isn’t really there at all.
2. Loss of intimacy
Worrying about a breakup from a fear of losing intimacy can actually bring on that loss of intimacy. As one becomes increasingly insecure, the other will grow more distant because it becomes easier to say nothing. It’s like walking on eggshells — any accidental misspoken word could be interpreted the wrong way. Nobody likes to be accused of things they did not commit, so trying to force affection or demanding to know everything can just drive the other person further from you.
3. #OverlyAttached
You become overly dependent on your partner until it’s as if you don’t have a life of your own — and you forget to let him breathe. He will feel trapped, finding it hard to be around you, but also hard not to be around you, because he knows how painful it is for you to be wondering. Yes, being clingy is a sign of a healthy relationship but to the point of being a psycho? Don’t go there.
4. Jealousy
Insecurity is a sin filled with self-doubt, which often lead to major relationship problems, such as jealousy. It might seem cute at first, but extreme jealousy can come off as provocation. By constantly asking whether he’s cheating on you when he’s not, it’s as if you’re trying to plant that image in his brain. Do you want him to do so?
5. Resentment
Like Bey, you can’t stop crying too ’cause at this stage, nothing is going right. The healthy partner will start to show signs of resentment, and it’s making the other go crazier! By now they’ll feel annoyed by the insecure party and endless arguments will make them resent each other even more.
6. The inevitable split
Ultimately, the resentfulness will grow to a breaking point. Something has to give and if it’s not the insecurity, it’s the relationship. Someone will have had enough and walk away. You may think that this was supposed to happen and that you saw it coming, but, what if he truly cared for you and you’re the one who drove him away?
Insecurity kills relationships because the fear of hurt sets off a chain of events which will result in the very thing that the insecure person is afraid of. In a healthy relationship, partners should be mutually supportive and strong — both as individuals and as a couple — without one constantly needing to reassure the other.
