For a lot of people, separation anxiety seems to be only associated with children when they have to part from their parents. But that’s a common misconception as adults also can experience separation anxiety when they are separated from the people that matters most to them.
Separation anxiety can cause for the people that suffer from it to react a little irrationally at times and this may result in pushing the very person they need the most. At a digital time where connecting with someone is made so easily available, when we can’t, everything goes haywire. We become almost dependable on a reply and if we don’t get it a timely manner, it could send those that go through separation anxiety in a downward spiral.
If your loved one is away and you’re that awful feeling is creeping up on you, try some of these tips to help you get through the days:
Fill up your schedule
When your loved one is around and in town, chances are you’re shacked up with him doing things together, which means hardly any time is spared for your friends. Having your partner away means ample time to catch up with your friends. Plan a potluck dinner and enjoy the company of your pals. Distracting yourself with things to do will keep you from behaving in a way that would make you feel worse about the separation.
Pick up on that hobby
Have you been meaning to finish that book you bought last year? The one that you made a new year’s resolution to finish this year? Being alone for the week without your partner doesn’t have to be a lonely ordeal. Finish that half-done painting, catch up with your favourite girly TV shows or just get into any hobby that you love.
Have a little confidence
Don’t forget that you’re extra sensitive at the moment, so don’t overreact. Try and take into consideration that he might be busy instead of thinking you’re being ignored. He hasn’t forgotten you, so take a chill pill and don’t stress yourself over false positives.
Release some endorphins
Beat separation anxiety with the euphoric feelings that exercising gives you. Get on the treadmill, do some yoga or go for a relaxing swim. All these forms of exercises will release the good chemicals and helps rid of stress.
Think positive thoughts
You’re alone and it’s easy to think, “My husband is gone for a business trip for the week, I’m going to be all by myself.” Those kind of thoughts will only make you feel a lot worse. Switch your state of mind by saying to yourself, “I’ve got a whole week of free time, what should I do?”
Express your feelings
Do this in a journal, as it will lift some of that separation weight off your shoulders. Instead of bombarding your loved one with calls and texts while he’s trying to work, why not pen your feelings down in a journal? That way you will feel at ease, while he won’t be bothered with your worries.
