Let’s think about one of those cliche Hollywood movies; couple starts an epic screaming and cursing match with each other, then mid-fight, one partner pushes the other up against the wall, they started to kiss passionately, things started to escalate quickly, the scene become too hot, next thing you know, they’re having a steamy makeup sex.
But why is this a thing? Is there a link between being angry and horny?
Yes, this happened IRL life too. But why is this a thing? Is there a link between being angry and horny? Or are we all just kinky mafakas? After doing my research, I’ve come to learn that there is actually some science behind this mad situation. Here’s why:
Arousal and anxiety are sister sensations that increase your heart rate, blood flow, and breathing. And according to Robert Thomas, cofounder of Sextopedia said, “The excitement from one of those emotions is likely to transfer to another.”
“When we’re under stress, such as the stress induced by an argument, our sympathetic nervous system is aroused,” (Aka, this is why fights turn you on.) “This also sparks your fight or flight response, which fills you full of energy and makes you motivated to want to physically act in some way.’’ Sounds about right.
This also sparks your fight or flight response, which fills you full of energy and makes you motivated to want to physically act in some way
Other than that, the feeling of fear can creates a sense of abandonment, inadequacy, or both—so sex can sometimes alleviate that fear by increasing intimacy and reestablishing feelings of safety. Meaningful, traumatic events that contained fighting or intense anger can sometimes get connected to sexual feelings.
