Like it or not, we’ve all had couple friends whom we thought would last forever but one day out of the blue, we log into Facebook only to realize that they’re… single and for some reason it feels like a slap in the face. A reality slap that is.
The thing is, it could happen to anyone, including yourself. It doesn’t matter if you both were perfect for each other even if you both have the same beliefs and personality because all relationships take effort and lots of it. If the past year has taken its toll on the both of you, here’s how you can bring back some spark and meaning into your lives.
Some couples are almost never alone especially if the both of you are living with families. At any given time, you’re expected to help in the kitchen, watch the kids or talk with the in-laws so how is it possible for you and your other half to spend some quality time together? Take a quick getaway, you could even check-in to a nice hotel in the city without going far or take a walk in the park together and reflect on your relationship so far.
Whenever a relationship is too one-sided, one party eventually starts to burn out. Don’t let your man do everything just because ‘he’s a man’ and neither should he treat you the same otherwise conflicts will soon arise. Have a system for house chores like if you cook, he does the dishes, if you wash the bathroom, he does the laundry. Don’t be calculative in terms of who does more. If you’re not happy, sit him down and talk it out because guys tend to shut out when it comes to nagging.
Your Ps and Qs should not be limited only to strangers. Sometimes we tend to emotionally abandon the people closest to us by taking them for granted. Always take time to tell them you care, that you love them and always say thank you, even if its something as small as passing you the ketchup. It doesn’t take much time or effort, yet you’d be surprised at how rare this happens.
Nobody’s perfect so stop trying to mould your man into becoming that romantic man who sends you flowers at your office, in the rain. The truth is, men often try very hard to please the woman he loves be it in bed, in the kitchen or with your friends. Try to put yourself in his shoes once in a while and have reasonable expectations because when you stop aiming for perfection, you both focus on appreciating one another instead.
Movie dates, dinners and shopping, if these three things sum up your relationship as a couple then we’re sorry to say that things might get stale after awhile. If you’re not sure what interests both you and your other half, take a chance and try new things together whether its a new sport or activity like paintball, baking, football or even a small online business together.
Even if you’re both together all the time but if you’re both on your phones or game machines 24/7, that’s not quality time together and this has caused disruption in many relationships. The whole point of social media is to help you connect with people yet it also creates distance between people in real life.
Have a rule whereby nobody’s allowed to go on Facebook or Twitter unless its to answer a phone call when you’re both together.
There are people who jump from one relationship to another simply because they do not put enough effort in communicating with their partners. It takes two to keep the spark alive and if he’s “The One”, you’d have no qualms spending each and everyday together yet still desire more time with him even after years and years of marriage.
Make these your new year relationship resolutions and have a lovey dovey new year!