Attraction is a tricky beast. You’re hot one minute, and the next, nothing but fumes. How many times have you met someone who ticked all the boxes, only to find the sizzle factor to be nowhere in sight? There are times when your brain is saying ‘’Hell no’’ but your body screams ‘’Hell yes’’.
How we see ourselves is often a benchmark for who we are attracted to and who we attract. But hey love is blind right? If you find that you are only attracted to people who are unavailable, then that might be a sign of an emotional attachment issue that needs to be addressed. Let’s break it down. There are few basic elements that feed into whether or not we say ooh la la or thank you, next around any prospective partner, and they are all interrelated.
Look beyond the initial firework fuelled attraction of mind and body, and dig a little deeper. It is possible to find someone you have chemistry with, who is also compatible
Okay, I was never one to excel in science. But first thing when it comes to speedy attraction; lays a method of madness in comfort. That person gives you instant comfort, yes? And thus offers some level of loyalty on your part. This is where the ‘’ignoring the red flags’’ meme comes about. Like yes, there are over hundreds of red flags you have detected but somewhat they still managed to blinded you by giving a total comfort that no one has ever given before. Please, wake up.
Next, physical attraction can be overwhelming, but sometimes you have to listen to your head, not your heart, and heed the warnings. Look beyond the initial firework fuelled attraction of mind and body, and dig a little deeper. It is possible to find someone you have chemistry with, who is also compatible! You may just have to spend a little time working this out. Another reason why women are attracted to the wrong men is because we think it is all we deserve. Low self-esteem comes easy when you are left alone juggling children and wondering where it went wrong. If you don’t think you deserve someone who treats you with love and respect, then you are likely to settle for less.
Lastly, there is also the fear of being alone which can equate to being with someone who isn’t the right fit. It can be hard to cope with loneliness as a single mum. And often the result is dating a man who isn’t good enough for you. Of course, this can also present a challenge, because just like the player – he isn’t going to change his spots.