Dry sex or dry humping—the act of rubbing your vagina against your partner’s leg, knee, erection, or other body parts deserves more respect and love than most people give it. Because hey, it’s art.
For people who have clitorises, dry humping can lead to mind-blowing orgasms. Clitoral stimulation for cisgender women is the goddess of sex, but is typically overlooked due to our patriarchal view on sex and pleasure. While people with penises can get pleasure from outercourse, dry humping is all about the clitoris. The repetitive motion applies constant friction and pressure to the clit. So as long as you’re doing it right, there’s a good chance it’ll rock your world.
Interesting huh? Not sure how to start it? We gotchuuuuu.
1. Choose your clothes carefully
You can have an orgasm with your clothes on, but it’s going to be a lot harder if you’re wearing super thick denim. The point is to put pressure on your clitoris, so if you’re heading to boo’s house and you know you’ll be doing some dry humping, then wear something thin. The thinner the barrier to your clit is, the more likely you’ll be able to get off.
2. Get into position
You need to find a position that helps you control the speed, position, and angle of how your clitoris is rubbing against your partner’s body. Tilt your pelvis forward and then move your hips around until you find the aha moment against the erection [or sex toy]. You can also straddle your partner on the couch, which might make it easier to feel the pressure around your whole vulva.
3. Be creative
Of course, dry humping doesn’t have to involve both partner’s genitals and there are plenty of fun body parts to play around with. You can rub against someone’s knee, thigh, hand, or even a vibrator attached to someone’s leg. Anything that has extra hardness can work.
4. Don’t take it too seriously
Just like any other kind of sex, mishaps can happen during dry humping. Maybe your partner’s knee will slip just as you’re grinding against it, or maybe you won’t be able to find a good angle. Just laugh it off and move on. If you thought that something would feel good and it doesn’t, try something else. After all, this is all about figuring out what feels good for you.
