Dear Ms. Lipstiq,
Should I or shouldn’t I tell my friend the truth? Recently, I found out that her boyfriend has been cheating on her. They have been in a relationship for four years and for a matter of fact, I have seen him with another girl and I have confronted him about it.
I was shocked when he told me off casually that I needed to grow up and things like this do happen in life. He he also told me that if I was a loyal friend, I would not tell her the truth as she will be very depressed over the matter. What should I do?
Clarissa Soo
Dear Ms. Clarissa,
From what you have written, it is quite clear that your friend is dating a guy who doesn’t deserve to be with her at all.
The best thing to do for now is to tell your friend the truth. She is going to be hurt, she may not speak to you for awhile and she may even choose not to believe you.
At then end of the day, when it comes to friendship, the most important thing is to be honest always. The damage would be worst if she were to find out that you have been hiding this from her for a very long time. Tell it to her in an open manner and let her make her decision.
Ms. Lipstiq