A relationship is as much about you as it is about your partner. This is pretty obvious, but what happens when one of you feels that you’re not getting what you need or want out of this relationship that you two have built? Do you just give up and walk away or do you stay and try and come to an agreement with one another. Whatever it is, being silent about a problem won’t solve it.
If you want to talk to him, try sitting down and actually talking to him and not at him because demanding things won’t fix the problems. Instead, here are some of the things you can do to get what you want in your relationship with your partner:
You need him to do his household chores – Nobody likes doing chores unless you have a severe case of OCD, so try not to attack him if he forgets to take out the trash or fix that light bulb you’ve been asking him to for ages. Instead sit down and a have a calm, practical conversation about which chore is whoever’s responsibility to carry out.
You wish the other would plan more date nights – Again, no attacking and getting up in his face by saying, “Why do I have to plan something all the time? Why can’t you do it for once?” Kindly and rationally suggest that the two of you taking turns to plan date night. That way you both can appreciate the effort that’s been put into the planning.
You wish he paid more compliments – In case you don’t already realize, men are different from women. Your boyfriend is not going to notice how cute your shirt is like how your best friend would. So, the next time he tells you that you’re looking completely amazing in that red dress, tell him how much it turns you on when he gives you compliments. See where that takes you.
You need some alone time – Believe it or not, everybody needs some time on their own because it’s human nature’s way to recharge and to just collect your thoughts.Maybe encourage him to go on a night out with the boys while you curl up in bed and watch your favourite TV series. That way he doesn’t feel like you’re blatantly pushing him away.
You want him to put you first – A lot of women think that the best way to go about this is to give the men ultimatums. That’s the worst thing you can do. If you feel like he puts his buddies first, you might want to gently mention it to him. He might not realize it and if you bring it up, he will know that he has to sort his priorities out. Communicating is key!
