Have you recently been through a breakup and feel that it’s due time for you to get back on the horse? A breakup can be really tough on someone and take a toll on your soul so, if you want to get back out there, there are plenty of things you should really consider. It’s also important that you take as much time as you can at healing properly.
Before jumping into a new relationship, which can seem exciting after being alone for a while, here are the five things you should ask yourself and consider:
Are you okay with being by yourself?
Men, they come and go. And yeah, eventually you will find that guy you will spend the rest of forever with but really at the end of the day, all you have is yourself. So, the big question remaisn: Are you okay with being with just you? If you feel like that being on your own is not the worst thing in the world then you’re definitely ready to be with someone new.
Are you who you’ve always wanted to be?
I think to have a successful relationship, you really need to know yourself and BE yourself. Be who you want to be. When you’re at a point in your life where everything is how you’ve always imagined, then it’s time to add someone to that equation. If you’re not making your partner the solution to making your life better but instead for him to just complement your life, then that means you’re ready. It’s so important to be sure of who you need to be before being with someone else
Are you trying too hard?
If you’re trying too hard to make this new relationship work then it probably means that it’s not meant to be or you’re not ready. A relationship, new or old should be effortless. It doesn’t mean you don’t make the effort but you should have to go to the extra mile to be someone that you think your partner wants you to be.
Are you strong enough to make it work?
Being in relationship requires a lot of understanding and compromising. If you’re not the sort to do that then I’m sorry to say that you relationship probably won’t last.
Are you in it for the right reasons?
Stop and ask yourself if being in this new relationship is your way of battling the loneliness. If it is, then again, this relationship won’t go far. You cannot expect someone else to fill the void because it’s a journey that you, yourself have to endure and experience. So, before rushing into it, get acquainted with yourself and with being on your own. It will benefit your future relationships.
Do you love yourself enough?
I think that before you can truly love someone or even be loved by someone in a relationship, you really need to love yourself. Because at the end of the day, all you have is you. The only person you should rely on is you. It’s impossible to find that fairytale love if you don’t love yourself first. Loving yourself will only reflect on how others will love you.
