Do you and your other half have similar values and goals in life? For instance, how would you describe him? Is he someone who is truly committed to learning with and growing with you? Does he require constant pushing from you to get somewhere in the relationship? Do you often taken it upon yourself to constantly make him do what he needs to do?
Then maybe, your man is still lacking in the one of the most important traits you should be looking for in a person – maturity. You might think that it’s not a big problem for now but his maturity can be the deciding factor between what makes or breaks your relationship.
Besides, didn’t they always say that when you date and look to someday marry, you need to remember that you’ll be marrying the person that he is as of current and not the person you hope he’ll potentially become?
(By the way, we don’t condone changing a person after getting into a relationship with him or her anyway when we don’t expect the same to happen to us.)
And how do you know if he’s immature?
When things get a bit rough, when arguments happen, does he stay calm and keep a level head, or does he lose his temper? A sure sign that your man is immature is when he starts blaming everyone else except himself when things go wrong or start pulling the “defensive card” and worst of all, on top of it all, get raving mad at you when it isn’t necessary.
Some might even do whatever it takes to prove that he’s right regardless of what you say!
A mature person should be able to handle situations better by simply keeping his cool and remain honest and upfront with you.
Do you often feel like he fosters all other healthy relationships besides the one he has with you? Does he get along perfectly fine and dandy with his family or co-workers but when it regards you, the entire relationship is painted in uncertainty?
If the above applies to you then we’re sorry but you’ve just paired yourself up with boy, not a man. A mature man takes all his relationships very seriously and thus, should be able to skillfully keep a balance between you and his other relationships, to keep them all healthy at the same time.
And really, don’t you deserve a proper, healthy relationship with your other half anyway?
Above all, a mature man will respect you regardless of the situation. You don’t need to have to resort to being a pushover just to make the relationship work. Neither do you need to be your other half’s “babysitter”. If you often find yourself needing to help your man grow up then maybe he’s not mature enough to handle long-term commitment.
With that, we now ask you, is he really someone you’d want to spend the rest of your life with? Think about it.
