Romance has swept across our local airwaves as the audience awaits with bated breath to see who the lucky girl who will have her heart stolen by the charming bachelor in Take Me Out Malaysia. Love is hard to find these days otherwise we wouldn’t have so many reality shows tackling the issue of love.
While we can’t just sit around or plot on how to get the attention of the apple of our eye constantly, as women of the 21st century fighting for equal rights, asking a man out should be one of them too. We can’t hang around and wait for the guys to ask us out all the time although women usually want men to make the first move as its usually the first test to see what kind of man he really is.
The approach and method is also taken into consideration by the woman, for example, sending her flowers with a note beats Facebook messages any day.
Like math, if you increase your odds, you also increase the probability of scoring “the one” so sometimes you should put away the misconception that only men should ask and do it first instead. While it can be nervewrecking because you never know his answer or how to respond if he says no, there are definitely more perks should he say yes.
So really, you don’t have anything to lose!
Here’s how you can catch his attention and ask him out without looking too desperate:
Wave at him
This method is easy and harmless. If you see a cutie you like while at the gym or grocery shopping, catch his eye, give him a wave and the sweetest smile you have. Now continue doing what you were doing nonchalantly. Chances are, he’ll feel flattered and if he feels the same he’ll come over and say hi. In a way, you are tricking him into making the first move, no?
Gauge his interests
The best way to get to know a guy is when he’s in comfort zone, not by a candlelight dinner as it usually send out signals and he might not have romantic notions about you yet. Instead, try to gauge what he’s into, his hobbies and then ask him out discreetly by asking him to teach you to say, play paintball for example. It’ll be more fun and you’ll get to see him in his element. Guys love feeling important especially when they get to share what they love with someone else.
Don’t be rude
Don’t barge in when he’s in the middle of a conversation with his other friends, not only is it rude, he might be compelled to say yes when he really doesn’t want to or worse he may turn you down and embarass you publicly.
Be approachable and don’t look awkward. Men tend to pay attention to women who are confident and know how to enjoy themselves. There’s a huge difference between being attention seeking and confidence.
Invite him on a group date
Only attempt this if you’ve both been friends for awhile and not on someone who you’ve only just met for the very first time. Invite him out with a group of your other friends to make things less awkward but keep your flirty girl friends away!
Suggest something! Anything!
If you’re finding it tough to ask him out, approach him for small talk then say something like “There’s this new movie I’ve been dying to watch but everyone is just so busy!” If he’s interested, he’ll quickly take it as a cue to ask you to watch it with him which also takes the pressure off from deciding what to do.
Social media
There are couples who meet online and end up married as a result. Of course we don’t recommend having your entire courtship online but social networking sites like Facebook, Twitter or plain ol’ MSN can help break down walls and keep the awkwardness away as you both get to know each other better. Plus, if you realize you don’t like him as much you can always politely say you’re busy and log off.
Dating is a two-way process because both parties have a role to play. Some guys may fancy you but find you disinterested so they’d rather play it safe rather than risk rejection altogether. Not everyone has the spirit to continuously pursue a woman who constantly rejects them and shows no interest.
Don’t play hard to get, seriously. You wouldn’t want it to happen to you right? Don’t mislead the man if you’re not looking for anything serious.
Love isn’t like what the movies make it out to be. Not everyday do we meet a 117-year-old vampire or stumble into the love of our life in a bookshop so don’t sit around waiting for Prince Charming to sweep you off your feet. Be yourself and love will find its way!
