I know what you’re thinking. “Do you even know what it feels like when you give it everything you have and the other person just throws it all away?” Yes, I do, and there was so much that I learned from that. Love is never easy. Breaking up sucks. Getting dumped sucks even more! But you know what, there is no running away from that. So how about we look at the situation from a different light, and see how to make the best out of the predicament?
Here are a few reasons why getting dumped isn’t necessarily the worst thing ever:
You Realised That Nothing Lasts Forever
It’s the harsh truth: nothing really lasts. Life is an incessant cycle of good times, bad times, and not so bad times. Or as Ronan Keating said, “Life is a rollercoaster, just gotta ride it.” It’s true. There will be times when you’re in love and feel like you can conquer the world, there will be times when you feel like every guy out there wants to break your fragile little heart.
For a situation like this, the best person to look up to is Katy Perry. After her (ex) husband dumped her on New Year’s eve, she was devastated. Instead of locking herself up and crying that men suck, she wrote a beautiful and empowering song called, “Unconditionally”, vowing to love the next man who walks into her life unconditionally. She went on to date Mr. Sexy-Voice John Mayer, and now dating British heartthrob and handsome elf Orlando Bloom. It might not work out again, or it might, who cares, just enjoy it while it lasts. Life goes on, anyway. It doesn’t wait for you to recover.
You Lost Yourself, And Found Yourself Again
It’s so easy to lose yourself in a relationship. No matter how hard to try to stay true to yourself, you will change. Don’t worry, that’s normal. We usually become who we spend most of our time with. When you’re in love, it becomes worse. You inadvertently start doing a million things differently; the way you talk, the way you laugh, the places you hang out, everything changes. Sometimes you’re not even sure who you are anymore.
Now is the best time for you to rediscover that. Take up that French class now. Go and have that girl’s night out now that you don’t have to spend every weekend at his place. Buy a plane ticket and get lost in a beautiful island. Live for yourself.
You Cried Yourself To Sleep For Months… And Survived
You probably thought you’d never be able to get past this. Crying night after night, falling asleep on a tear-stained pillow, waking up depressed and hating everything that breathed or moved, it seemed as though you’ll never be able to get back out there again.
But you did. Whether it was a few weeks, months and years, you made it through. Your heart healed, you got yourself together, redefined your priorities, got a make-over, and you are back in the game. There will be days when you look back and wonder how you did it. There will be days when you might even relapse, and end up in tears again. But hey, look at you, your life does not revolve around him anymore. You look great. You survived this, and you can survive anything. You’re a fighter.
You Realise That Love is More of a Gift Than A Favour
We all love and want to be loved in return. There will come a time in your life when you realise that you can only give love, and there is really nothing you can do to guarantee that the other person will love you back. It is not a favour that the other person will feel obliged to return, it is something you give without expecting any in return. Every single person on this planet wants to love and be loved back, but not everyone is lucky enough to experience the latter.
You know what, that shouldn’t stop you, because unrequited love and heartbreaks happens to EVERYONE, even to the rich and famous; Taylor Swift, Jennifer Aniston, Britney Spears and the list goes on. It is a phase that we all have to go through. But you should never stop. Love with all your heart!
You Got To Experience First Dates and First Kisses All Over Again
Yes, it definitely felt good to have a safe and stable relationship, knowing someone is always there for you. But it feels even better to feel the butterflies of first dates again, doesn’t it? What time should I blow dry my hair so it stays in place until he picks me up? Where should I do my nails? Does this dress say “fun and not slutty”? Should I kiss him tonight? You know nothing beats that.
And hey, this time, he might just be the one you were looking for 😉