Call it honesty but there are some things you should zip up in a tight safe and never let it see the light of day again. It’s tempting to want to spill the deets your life when you meet someone you’re completely smitten over because you think it’s better for him to know everything that has happened to you in order for him to accept you as who you are.
The truth is, history can be complicated and there may be holes in your stories that will lead to confusion and misunderstandings that will eventually tear your blooming relationship apart. Here are some things you should never, ever tell your man:
1. Your sleeping partners
There’s no way you can lie about being a virgin (if you’re not one) but as a rule of thumb, divide the number of men you’ve slept with by three if he ever asks you this but never voluntarily spew out this information. It doesn’t make you look genuinely remorseful, it just sounds like you’re bragging. Women who sleep around are hardly generalized as wife material or that you have lousy taste in men hence the game of musical chairs. Of course, that’s the past but numbers can shape future perceptions so be careful with them.
2. Comparing him to your exes
Competitiveness is not just between women, men do it too, in Counterstrike, Skyrim, football, F1 and yes they don’t like being beneath other men unless they’re gay. Don’t complain what your ex used to do for you especially if the former was financially rich. Men get jealous and when you keep bringing up the past and try to avoid it consciously if you can because when it happens there is no way you can get away with saying, “Yes he may be better/bigger/richer but that’s in the past and I only love you now!”
3. “You remind me of my dad”
This may come across as sweet but the next time the both of you are having a bedroom romp, you know who he thinks of? Yep, your dad. You may have meant that he has traits your father has but its easy to take it the wrong way. Think about it, what if he tells you that you remind him of his mother? Eww, right?
4. “Do you think she’s hot?”
And if your man hesitates, you pick a fight with him or give him silent treatment for the rest of the day right? Now if that isn’t a waste of time we don’t know what is. Men don’t know that most attractive women have layers and layers of makeup piled on their faces. Decent face, cushiony bosoms and short skirts are an effective combo for eyes to stray. The truth is, whatever his answer, you’d be upset as well. If the woman wasn’t attractive in the first place, we doubt you would’ve noticed her too.
5. “I cheated on an ex”
The moment he finds out that you once cheated (intentionally or not), you would have planted the seed of doubt in him that will never go away. Nobody likes to be a cheater and even if you won’t cheat on him, he will always be wary whenever you go out with “your friends” or work late. Also be sincere and don’t cheat on him despite you past.
6. “Your little bro is..”
Firstly, men don’t like you calling their penis names. There, we said it without giggling. Even if his isn’t up to your expectations in size or shape you should just keep it to yourself and don’t be a tattletale and spread the word among your girlfriends! Unlike character, there’s not much he can do about it and if you plan to marry him, you’re basically stuck with it too. Commenting negatively on his penis is a big blow to a man.
7. “Who’s the best girlfriend?”
Women enjoy torturing themselves by asking questions like “How many girlfriends have you had?“, “Am I the prettiest?”, “Did you sleep with her?” You know you’re not going to like the answer yet you demand for it and then bring it up at every argument from then onwards. Sometimes its best to sweep your curiosity under the carpet and love him for what he is today.
8. How much makeup you use
Women immediately notice if another woman is using colored contacts, falsies or even the slightest hint of bronzer but men, they’re so easily fooled and that’s what we love about them. We can’t help but wonder if they’d be with us if not because of the superficiality but don’t tell your men what you’ve put on your face or how much you have layered on because the next time you both go out, he’ll start asking, “Are you using false lashes? Do you have foundation on?” and it can get quite embarrassing.
