We all know it’s difficult to cultivate strong bonds of friendship, let alone actually sustaining them. Some friendships can be more harmful than they are helpful and that can really hurt. To save you from the blow, here’s how you can tell if your friend is not a worthy #squadmember:
1. Negative vibes
You dread seeing her, and you’re relieved when she leaves. It started out as an amazing connection – you keep #twinning by accident and felt extremely bonded, but now you realise she breeds negativity and complains about everything–leaving you feeling uncomfortable whenever you hang out together.
2. It’s all about her
There’s an imbalance in story telling – it’s always about her problems, rarely about yours. You listen to every detail of her drama, but she never really returns the favour. When she does though, it hurts when you see how insincere her expression is. Come on, what about your feelings?
3. The gossip never ends
Talking and sharing ‘insights’ about the person you both can’t stand is normal–heck, your friendship probably blossomed because you dislike the same people. With that said, excessive gossip is mentally draining and one day, you will no longer tolerate.
4. Pressure
Experiencing new things is always fun; you should be adventurous anyway! However, this one friend of yours constantly invites trouble and makes you be a part of it. She’s also left you feeling manipulated. Be wise – if you have a bad feeling about something, say no. You shouldn’t be pressured to fit in.
5. Your success hurts
Ah, the inevitable envy. You graduated college together months ago but she’s still unemployed while you seem to be busy making some dough. She mocks you for being too serious at work, complains that you don’t have time to chill and constantly belittles you for no reason. She even gets jealous over your new friends.
6. Can’t embrace change
You love her, but you’re tired. Helping her is a waste of time as she doesn’t take the advice and then, returns to square one. What’s the point of going out of your way for a person doesn’t want to be helped? Your friend tends to get so caught up in her own drama that she forgets to actually live–which consistently hurts you.
It’s okay to let go of that friend if her behaviour is toxic to you.
