It’s about time you stand you ground. A lot of us say yes to requests as we’re only trying to resist a few things like being rude. Sometimes we fear conflict and have to lose opportunities. At times we want to seem agreeable and liked for being somewhat of a ‘yes man’. Dealing with people can be a tough thing, but if you want to say no, it shouldn’t be go into why you say no, but how you say no. That will make the difference in helping you refuse without coming off as a jerk.
Know Why You’re Saying No
People should be aware of what their priorities in life are and you need to identify what’s important to you and what isn’t. Before you can say no with confidence, be clear that you want to say no.
Say Thank You
When you’re unable to help due to whatever you reasons, it still helps to be appreciative for their invitation or requests. So thank them for having you in their thoughts while you graciously decline.
Say No to the Request, Not the Person
It’s important to let someone know that you’re rejected the invitation and not the person. Let him or her know that you respect them and remember not to fake it.
Explain Why
Making excuses may not make a difference, but having a reason does. It helps to be honest about saying no, but always use the steps above to help you not come off as a jerk.
Don’t Give In
Some people can very persistent and won’t give up easily. But you can be as pushy as they can when they keep insisting that you accept their invitation. Make light of it and diffuse the situation by saying you admire the person’s attitude, but you’d also like to be the same.
