So you have been dating this guy for a couple of months and everything seemed to be going fine until recently his true colours have begun to show.
When I mean true colours here it doesn’t mean that he has entirely changed but he has started to change gradually. He used to give you compliments about how you look but suddenly those compliments flew away and more comments are beginning to seep in.
If you are going through that, do not worry. You are not alone on that journey as most men do that to women they date. I mean not all will comment about your style but most men start to reveal their true colours after a few months of knowing a lady.
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The worst is when it comes to fashion and they seem to be entirely in a different world of fashion compared to you. Why do they do that?
Well the first thing that you must know is that you are not at fault. What you want to wear is entirely up to you and no one should tell you who you should be. The reason why guys do that is because most of the time they feel insecure with themselves and do not know how to overcome their own problems.
For instance, when you have a short boyfriend and he tells you that you can’t wear heels with him. If you were living back in the 50’s where society would have had a bad impression if you were taller than your partner then it would have been different. In this era, most girls do end up looking taller than guys even if they do not wear heels.People are to busy these days to pass such remarks anymore and if your man really says this to you, it simply means that he just doesn’t feel confident enough because you are taller than him.
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So what can you do?
Most guys who do pass such remarks are like that because of the environment which they are currently in. For instance, if he is working as a doctor, he would probably know nothing about fashion and the latest trends. So how can you help him out? The best way to solve any problem especially if it is bothering you is by communicating.
Communication helps to sort the problem out and you should be the bigger person and explain things to him.. Help him overcome his problems slowly and show him that by just dressing up in different outfits does not mean that you are going to get another boyfriend.
Secondly, get him to attend events which you attend. By attending events together, he would slowly learn that you style of dressing is not that “weird” after all and that you are just wearing latest designs which are in fashion and which are comfortable. Besides that, try showing him latest fashion designs from magazines which you read while you are watching TV and this may help him overcome his problems.
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Try this and see if your partner understands that dressing up differently doesn’t have to mean that you are trying to look hot for another guy. If things start to change completely and you find yourself exhausted and tired, then look back at the relationship and decide if that is the person you would want to spend your entire life with.
