Being in a relationship is one of the most profound experiences anyone could ever have. The spark, the happiness, the wholesome honeymoon period are the blessed feeling of two people being together. But before you decide to jump into one, remember that you’d have to go through numerous serious events before you could even determine if this person is truly ‘’the one’’. One or two casual dates couldn’t really dictate the future, so to save you and your potential new partner some time, you will need to face the mirror and ask yourself a few questions.
Hookup or one-night-stand culture is so out of style now. We need to aim for serious, stable futures. Also, if you’re above 23 and still playing ‘’ghosting’’ and ‘’zombie-ing’’ you need to get a freaking life. Seriously, how shallow? If you don’t want to go through another pointless relationship, start by analyzing your inner-self, and please… stop looking for emotional support just because you couldn’t get over your ex.
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1. Do I really like them, or am I just using them?
Sometimes, you think you have an amazing time with this person until you realize that this person is not the type of person you’re looking for. Or maybe you just casually use them to spend the day out. Think wisely.
2. Am I emotionally available for a relationship?
Whew! This question needs to be plastered all over dating apps because… If you’re still hung up on your ex or a past relationship, then it’s best to take it easy and see where things go rather than jump into it head first.
3. Can they cater to my interests?
You don’t want someone who gets comfortable and stable right away. You want someone who’s exciting and challenges you. Also, if you were to suggest some activities, would it lead to a fight or ‘’Heck yeah, I’m down!’’ reaction? Remember, boredom is the enemy.
4. Will he/she hold me back from my goals?
If they’re too needy or have unusual expectations from you, then you’ll have to make the hard choice between work and love. Better to just avoid it altogether right?
5. Is it too soon?
Make sure you’ve experienced enough of life before getting into something. Especially if you think you’re better off alone for now. Remember folks, heal as much as you need and can. Ask yourself, ‘’Do I just want someone to hold me at night? Someone to take me out to an occasional dinner? Is what I’m feeling lust or true affection?’’
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