We all want to believe that our first loves will eventually end up being the one. While there are a handful of girls who prefer dating around and savouring as many fish as they can, some prefer to hold a romantic candle close to their hearts. The problem with us girls these days is that sometimes we’re in love with the idea of being in love rather than the person we’re with.
For some reason, the year end brings about more romance than the rest of the year (even more so than Valentine’s dare we say!). There’s just something magical about December and if you noticed, new couples are popping up and wedding invites are pouring in by the dozens as you read this. If you’re in a relationship yourself or if you’re looking for that special someone, how do you know for sure that he’s going to be the one you’ll be with till death do you both apart?
The attention that comes with saying yes to the proposal is overwhelming. Everyone starts congratulating the both of you, you break the news to parents and friends, start planning for the wedding and a year down the road you realize that you may have been too rash with saying, yes.
You have to be sure that the one you marry will be there for you in good times and bad, and vice versa. Here are some key points you should look out for to see if he’s a keeper, for life.
Does he have the habit of including you in all his future plans or does he avoid talking about it altogether? If he truly intends to marry you, he’ll be excited to do plenty of things wiith you from buying a house, naming your first kid, getting a pet and travelling around the world. The next time you both are together, examine your conversations because if he doesn’t talk about the future, chances are you won’t be in it.
Opposites attract and while the differences between the both you can make for highly exciting dates, most married couples will tell you that you need to share common interests and values in life especially when it comes to having a family and financial stability.
If your boyfriend still holds your hand and brags about how awesome you are in front of his friends even after five years of courtship, you know for sure that he’s marriage material. Boys who stay away when you’re at your lowest and is never there when you need him is a sure sign of trouble because as you get older, the person closest to you will be your husband and we cannot emphasize how important it is to marry your best friend whom you can trust and depend on.
Physical attraction will fade over time so when the lust is gone and you both can’t use make up sex as a way to solve problems, how will your relationship grow from there? Emotional and mental compatibility is much more important as it’ll ensure mutual understanding between the both of you throughout the years.
Your boyfriend should be the person you want to share your problems and happiness with so if he doesn’t reciprocate the same way then imagine how things will be like after marriage for the both of you. The both of you should be open about matters related to work, finance and family, and only then should you consider taking your relationship to the next level step: marriage.
