Dear Ms. Lipstiq,
My husband and I have been married for nearly 7 years now, and it’s only now that our sexual lives have become a down fall. I just can’t seem to get to where I need to during intercourse so i’ve come to faking my orgasms because I feel bad for my husband when I can’t get a natural orgasm. I haven’t told him, and i don’t know how to approach him about this. I don’t know if there is a problem with me, or if it’s our actual sex life that is going downhill. I want to fix this – but I can’t get over the guilt of constantly needing to fake orgasms. Is it okay to fake an orgasm? How do I fix this problem? I want to rekindle my love making sessions with my husband – because I feel that it’s starting to get a little too unhealthy. Please advice me, Ms. Lipstiq!
What you’re going through is something that every woman in the world has experienced. You’ve reached a standpoint in your sexual life that is completely natural. Is it okay to fake an orgasm? Yes it is! But, ofcourse, it’s not satisfying to us women – but we can’t always get up to par with everything. We will have our low moments at one point or another. Since you’ve been married for awhile now, you might want to consider talking to your husband about this? It can be a little embarrassing at first, but it will definitely patch things up in the bedroom – and you can both find a way to make it work so you can feel what you need to without having to fake it. But, once you and your husband have tried different methods and you still can’t reach your peak, then you might want to consult a doctor as it may be a medical issue. But don’t worry – one step at a time! Talk to your husband and move things on from there! We wish you the best!